|
0 members (),
355
guests, and
114
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums26
Topics35,525
Posts417,642
Members6,178
| |
Most Online4,112
Mar 25th, 2025
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 407
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 407 |
Slava Isusu Christu!
Friends,
My girlfriend and her mother have been at each other's throats recently. Sparing you the details, I humbly ask for your prayers that they get off each other's backs (for both are at fault in varying degrees) and learn to love one another as God intended. The situation is reaching grim proportions and I am truly afraid that one or the other is going to end up in an institution of some sort.
In Christ,
mikey.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Feb 2003
Posts: 2,217 Likes: 2
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Feb 2003
Posts: 2,217 Likes: 2 |
Mikey
You have my deepest prayers, and believe me I can sympathise with your situation, as I regularly experience problems with my own girlfriend's family, siblings in particular. May your girlfriend and her mother be filled with the unmeasurable peace of Christ.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405 Likes: 38
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405 Likes: 38 |
Dear Mikey,
Prayers to the Holy Spirit are always beneficial at such times.
My wife and mother went at it once and stopped speaking to one another.
I told them that I loved them both but that I wouldn't get involved between them.
For about six months after, whenever my mother started in about she-who-must-be-obeyed, I stopped her and changed the subject.
The same with my wife.
They got the message and later made up and are now as "thick as thieves."
Alex
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 407
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 407 |
Slava Isusu Christu! Alex, I have stayed out of it as much as I possibly can. On one hand, her mother is being very overprotective of her, and with good reason, as my girlfriend has had some rather horrid ex-boyfriends. She doesn't know me very well, due to conflicting schedules, and as a result, this ignorance of my wonderful self (  ) translates into fear and she becomes even more sheltering and overbearing. On the other hand, my girlfriend can be rather reactive and headstrong and will fight tooth and nail over the slightest thing. My mother always raised me to "let the little things go" and to pick my battles. I didn't always follow that advice, but have come to see its wisdom in the past few years. Their clashes can be quite verbally and emotionally violent. In addition to praying about this fervently, I'm trying to find a time where Mom and I can sit down and I can at least attempt to soothe her fears. One thing that annoys me to the utmost is that I am being compared to these, well, *&%&@!s that she has gone out with and I hate being held accountable for the sins of others. I am not them, especially in one glaring instance: none of them had a firm grounding in the Faith, if they had any at all. I thank you all for your continued prayers. In Christ, mikey.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405 Likes: 38
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405 Likes: 38 |
Dear Mikey,
Well, if you ever need a reference - let me know!
Or let Mom know!
Alex
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2003
Posts: 1,280
Former Moderator
|
|
Former Moderator
Joined: Nov 2003
Posts: 1,280 |
Dear Mikey, +The LORD bless you and give you patience! Just a suggestion?---Be firm with your girlfriend and tell her that, although you love her...you are NOT interested in being part of these fights or even being a witness or even hearing about them. Life is simply too short. PLUS---if she's fighting with her mother NOW...when her mother isn't around, she may choose another person to 'spar' with...and you don't want that to be YOU!
In Him Who calls us,
+Father Archimandrite Gregory, who is praying for you!
+Father Archimandrite Gregory, who asks for your holy prayers!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 1,700
Administrator Member
|
|
Administrator Member
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 1,700 |
For the peace, which the world cannot give...
Let us pray to the Lord!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 7,461 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 7,461 Likes: 1 |
May the Theotokos, the Mother of Peace, intercede for both of them.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 1,904
Orthodox Catholic Toddler Member
|
|
Orthodox Catholic Toddler Member
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 1,904 |
Prayers for the two gladiators, and for you Mikey!
It's part of the human condition, many of us have been there, misunderstandings abound.
God Bless you Mikey, it's a tough position to be in.
Prayers for all
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,696
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,696 |
Posted by Hieromonk Elias:
"For the peace, which the world cannot give...
Let us pray to the Lord!"
Amen! Wisdom, be attentive!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2003
Posts: 10,090 Likes: 16
Global Moderator Member
|
|
Global Moderator Member
Joined: Oct 2003
Posts: 10,090 Likes: 16 |
Mikey,
My prayers that, especially in this season of love, your girlfriend and her Mom will find common ground and be at peace with one another.
Many years,
Neil
"One day all our ethnic traits ... will have disappeared. Time itself is seeing to this. And so we can not think of our communities as ethnic parishes, ... unless we wish to assure the death of our community."
|
|
|
|
|
