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I'm RC so please pardon my ignorance.
From recent dialogue with Orthodox it seems that they handle divorce and remarriage like this: 1st marriage is sacramental. Divorce happens civilly. Church reviews and decides because of (many reasons here... some like if one partner gets sick with something like leprosy or tuberculosis) that it will grant church divorce. The Orthodox church was given the mysteries by Christ and it can confer them and take them back as well. So, the 1st marriage is not decided to be originally un-sacramental. The O. church just decides to "remove" the sacrament from that marriage and allow one or both parties to sacramentally remarry. BTW, similarly when a priest or bishop is deposed then he is a normal layman just like every other layman. If I have this wrong please let me know. If I have this right, then how many sacraments does the O. church think work like this? Can a person be un-baptized? etc.
The RC position is that a determination will have to be made that the 1st marriage was not sacramental to begin with and only then can a 2nd marriage happen.
What's the Eastern Catholic stance on these issues? I'm assuming the same as RC since we're in communion, but I may be wrong about that.
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Very Controversial topic, imo.
As far as I know, the Melkites in the US follow the standard Roman Catholic procedures, if necessary.
However, If you read Crowing, by Archbishop Joseph Raya, memory eternal, I think one would be a bit surprised (if one did not understand the Eastern view already).
The short answer is, I consider myself Orthodox in Communion with Rome. I don't see why this would be any different. That being said, I accept the current practice of my eparchy.
Maybe some one else can give you more info.? Maybe Irish Melkite, Father Serge or the Adminstrator.
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The Orthodox church was given the mysteries by Christ and it can confer them and take them back as well. So, the 1st marriage is not decided to be originally un-sacramental. The O. church just decides to "remove" the sacrament from that marriage and allow one or both parties to sacramentally remarry. What on earth do you mean that the "Orthodox Church" removes the sacrament??????? I have never heard of this. Is this your personal interpretation?
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Here is the official stance of the Greek Orthodox Church: http://www.saintdemetrios.com/OurFaith/Divorce.dspDivorce "What God has joined, let not man separate." (Mt. 19:6) The Orthodox Church firmly believes in the sanctity of the marriage bond. St. Paul refers to marriage as a "great mystery", likening the relationship of husband and wife to that of Christ and the Church. Our Lord defended the sanctity of marriage, justifying divorce only on the grounds of unchastity. For this reason the Church is deeply concerned about each marriage and seeks to reconcile differences arising between husband and wife in the normal course of life. The Church also realistically recognizes that some marriages may become completely unworkable, causing more damage than good, and thus does allow for divorce. Whenever serious difficulties arise threatening the dissolution of the marriage, the troubled couple should seek help from the Church first by contacting the priest rather than come to the Church when things are so bad that nothing can be done. Only when the marriage is seen by the Church to be completely unsalvageable is consideration given to divorce. Although a civil decree of divorce legally dissolves a marriage in the eyes of the civil authorities, it does not dissolve a marriage in the eyes of the Church if the marriage was blessed in the Orthodox Church. The Church is under no obligation to grant a divorce just because a civil court granted a civil divorce. In accordance with Church Canon Law, an Ecclesiastical Divorce is granted only under certain circumstances In accordance with the 21 November 1973 encyclical of His Eminence, Archbishop Iakovos, a divorce is given and considered valid, when a marriage is entered into by force, blackmail or false reasons. one or both parties is guilty of adultery. one party is proven to be mad, insane or suffers from a social disease which was not disclosed to the spouse prior to the marriage. one party has conspired against the life of the spouse. one party is imprisoned for more than seven years. one party abandons the other for more than three years without approval. one partner should be absent from home without the other's approval, except in in stances when the latter is assured that such absence is due to psycho-neurotic illness. one partner forces the other to engage in illicit affairs with others. one partner does not fulfill the responsibilities of marriage, or when it is medically proven that one party is physically impotent or as the result of a social venereal disease. one partner is an addict, thereby creating undue economic hardship. If such grounds exist, after one year of the issuance of the civil decree of divorce, a petition may be filed with the priest for the ecclesiastical dissolution of the marriage. At that time, the petitioner, who must be current with his/her Stewardship Pledge, must submit all of the following: The Church Marriage Certificate A certified copy of the civil decree of divorce A signed petition to the Ecclesiastical Court stating the grounds of divorce A money order or cashier check in the amount of $150 made out to the "Greek Orthodox Diocese of San Francisco" for the processing of the Ecclesiastical Divorce. The four items, along with the priest's report as to the results of his efforts to reconcile the couple, are then submitted to the Metropolitan. The Metropolitan reviews the file, and if there are grounds for an Ecclesiastical Divorce a date is set for the Ecclesiastical Court to be held. If the Ecclesiastical Court finds sufficient grounds for divorce, the Metropolitan will issue the official decree. For more information concerning Ecclesiastical Divorce, please contact one of our priests. Here are the ground for divorce is the Russian Orthodox Church: adultery and a new marriage of one of the parties, a spouse's falling away from Orthodoxy, perversion, impotence which had set in before marriage or was self-inflicted, contraction of leprosy or syphilis, prolonged disappearance, conviction with disfranchisement, encroachment on the life or health of the spouse, love affair with a daughter -in -law, profiting from marriage, profiting by the spouse's indecencies, incurable mental disease malevolent abandonment of the spouse. chronic alcoholism or drug-addiction abortion. I would advise you to consult this book: J. Meyendorff, Marriage: an Orthodox Perspective, Crestwood,New York: St. Vladimir's Seminary Press, 1975
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This topic has always greatly interested me. Eric, you write that: The O. church just decides to "remove" the sacrament from that marriage and allow one or both parties to sacramentally remarry. But I happenend to get a different view of marriage in Orthododxy. As far as I know, only the first marriage is regarded as a sacramental marriage since only the first marriage expresses the unalterable union between Christ and his bride, the Church. If a second marriage takes place, this second marriage is, though NOT a sacramental marriage, nevertheless treated as a "real" marriage(in distinction to Roman Cathgolicism, that wouldn't call it a marriage at all). But this distinction between sacramental and real has always seemed to be hard to grasp to me, so I hope some informed persons may elucidate the issue.
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the Eastern Orthodox churches, where married men can become priests (but not bishops), developed their own traditions. They have a long tradition affirming that a validly contracted marriage is dissolved only by physical death. Nevertheless, these churches recognize divorce in the face of unbearable marital discord, which they say is a kind of death. According to Lewis J. Patsavos, a canonist from the Greek Orthodox Seminary of the Holy Cross in Brookline, Massachusetts, the Orthodox Churches do not dissolve a dead marriage. Rather, the churches "formally acknowledge that the legitimate marriage is without foundation and has been dissolved ipso facto." The Eastern Orthodox see divorce and remarriage as the exception, not the rule, but when they do, says Patsavos, they do so in imitation of "the mercy and understanding exercised so profusely by our Lord during His life." http://astro.temple.edu/~arcc/marriage.htm A second marriage is also sacramental to my knowledge, though the rite for carrying out the service is different.
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What's the Eastern Catholic stance on these issues? I'm assuming the same as RC since we're in communion, but I may be wrong about that. It is the same, since we are Catholic. By being in full communion with the Church of Rome, and all the particular Churches in communion with that Church, there is an implication of sharing in agreement regarding defined matters of Faith & Morals. Dn. Robert
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All marriages in the Eastern Orthodox Church are sacraments.
"The Orthodox church was given the mysteries by Christ and it can confer them and take them back as well. So, the 1st marriage is not decided to be originally un-sacramental. The O. church just decides to "remove" the sacrament from that marriage and allow one or both parties to sacramentally remarry."
By the way it is the tone and comments like the quote above that is driving Eastern Orthodox members away from this forum. There is no need to insult the Eastern Orthodox Church in order to have a discussion.
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All marriages in the Eastern Orthodox Church are sacraments.
"The Orthodox church was given the mysteries by Christ and it can confer them and take them back as well. So, the 1st marriage is not decided to be originally un-sacramental. The O. church just decides to "remove" the sacrament from that marriage and allow one or both parties to sacramentally remarry."
By the way it is the tone and comments like the quote above that is driving Eastern Orthodox members away from this forum. There is no need to insult the Eastern Orthodox Church in order to have a discussion. Ummm... I sincerely disagree with you. There's no animosity on my part at all nor do I think I had any "tone" other than to express what I have been told (by Orthodox) is the case. What I posted is very close to how the Orthodox person told it to me. He said the O. Church confers the sacraments and it can take them back (although I think he meant only in the case of marriage and ordination and not the other sacraments).
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The Orthodox church was given the mysteries by Christ and it can confer them and take them back as well. So, the 1st marriage is not decided to be originally un-sacramental. The O. church just decides to "remove" the sacrament from that marriage and allow one or both parties to sacramentally remarry. What on earth do you mean that the "Orthodox Church" removes the sacrament??????? I have never heard of this. Is this your personal interpretation? No, it's not my interpretation. I have been told by Orthodox people (and other posters said as much here, too) that all Orthodox marriages are considered to be sacramental. Since one cannot be sacramentally married to 2 people at the same time they (and I got this from an Orthodox person) believe the O. church removes the sacramental bond when they make a decision to allow / approve of a church divorce (different than a civil divorce). If anyone even remotely thinks I sound triumphalistic then they don't know me very well. Annullments in the RC church are (IMO) granted for some very shaky reasons at times. So, while I disagree with EO theology regarding removing a sacrament, I realize our own RC church has many problems.
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Here is the official stance of the Greek Orthodox Church: http://www.saintdemetrios.com/OurFaith/Divorce.dspDivorce "What God has joined, let not man separate." (Mt. 19:6) The Orthodox Church firmly believes in the sanctity of the marriage bond. St. Paul refers to marriage as a "great mystery", likening the relationship of husband and wife to that of Christ and the Church. Our Lord defended the sanctity of marriage, justifying divorce only on the grounds of unchastity. For this reason the Church is deeply concerned about each marriage and seeks to reconcile differences arising between husband and wife in the normal course of life. The Church also realistically recognizes that some marriages may become completely unworkable, causing more damage than good, and thus does allow for divorce. Whenever serious difficulties arise threatening the dissolution of the marriage, the troubled couple should seek help from the Church first by contacting the priest rather than come to the Church when things are so bad that nothing can be done. Only when the marriage is seen by the Church to be completely unsalvageable is consideration given to divorce. Although a civil decree of divorce legally dissolves a marriage in the eyes of the civil authorities, it does not dissolve a marriage in the eyes of the Church if the marriage was blessed in the Orthodox Church. The Church is under no obligation to grant a divorce just because a civil court granted a civil divorce. In accordance with Church Canon Law, an Ecclesiastical Divorce is granted only under certain circumstances In accordance with the 21 November 1973 encyclical of His Eminence, Archbishop Iakovos, a divorce is given and considered valid, when a marriage is entered into by force, blackmail or false reasons. one or both parties is guilty of adultery. one party is proven to be mad, insane or suffers from a social disease which was not disclosed to the spouse prior to the marriage. one party has conspired against the life of the spouse. one party is imprisoned for more than seven years. one party abandons the other for more than three years without approval. one partner should be absent from home without the other's approval, except in in stances when the latter is assured that such absence is due to psycho-neurotic illness. one partner forces the other to engage in illicit affairs with others. one partner does not fulfill the responsibilities of marriage, or when it is medically proven that one party is physically impotent or as the result of a social venereal disease. one partner is an addict, thereby creating undue economic hardship. If such grounds exist, after one year of the issuance of the civil decree of divorce, a petition may be filed with the priest for the ecclesiastical dissolution of the marriage. At that time, the petitioner, who must be current with his/her Stewardship Pledge, must submit all of the following: The Church Marriage Certificate A certified copy of the civil decree of divorce A signed petition to the Ecclesiastical Court stating the grounds of divorce A money order or cashier check in the amount of $150 made out to the "Greek Orthodox Diocese of San Francisco" for the processing of the Ecclesiastical Divorce. The four items, along with the priest's report as to the results of his efforts to reconcile the couple, are then submitted to the Metropolitan. The Metropolitan reviews the file, and if there are grounds for an Ecclesiastical Divorce a date is set for the Ecclesiastical Court to be held. If the Ecclesiastical Court finds sufficient grounds for divorce, the Metropolitan will issue the official decree. For more information concerning Ecclesiastical Divorce, please contact one of our priests. Here are the ground for divorce is the Russian Orthodox Church: adultery and a new marriage of one of the parties, a spouse's falling away from Orthodoxy, perversion, impotence which had set in before marriage or was self-inflicted, contraction of leprosy or syphilis, prolonged disappearance, conviction with disfranchisement, encroachment on the life or health of the spouse, love affair with a daughter -in -law, profiting from marriage, profiting by the spouse's indecencies, incurable mental disease malevolent abandonment of the spouse. chronic alcoholism or drug-addiction abortion. >leprosy... I know some will say I'm picking on the EO which isn't my intent at all. But some of the reasons divorce and remarriage are allowed sound odd. If a couple takes a missionary trip to a part of the world where there is leprosy and one of them contracts this disease then (from you posted) it seems the other can divorce and remarry - even though the person who got sick did nothing wrong. >incurable mental disease I wonder if this includes things like Alzheimers. Surely the EO wouldn't allow a spouse to desert in the time of need and be allowed to remarry.
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the Eastern Orthodox churches, where married men can become priests (but not bishops), developed their own traditions. They have a long tradition affirming that a validly contracted marriage is dissolved only by physical death. Nevertheless, these churches recognize divorce in the face of unbearable marital discord, which they say is a kind of death. According to Lewis J. Patsavos, a canonist from the Greek Orthodox Seminary of the Holy Cross in Brookline, Massachusetts, the Orthodox Churches do not dissolve a dead marriage. Rather, the churches "formally acknowledge that the legitimate marriage is without foundation and has been dissolved ipso facto." The Eastern Orthodox see divorce and remarriage as the exception, not the rule, but when they do, says Patsavos, they do so in imitation of "the mercy and understanding exercised so profusely by our Lord during His life." http://astro.temple.edu/~arcc/marriage.htm A second marriage is also sacramental to my knowledge, though the rite for carrying out the service is different. Yes, the rite for the 2nd marriage includes penitential elements. Which seems odd since if the 2nd marriage is OK in the eyes of God then why the penitential stuff?
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I also (respectfully,no criticism intended) wonder about the penitential stuff for a second marriage. I would love to hear an explanation snce I'm still not clear about that. Why turn a wedding into a reminder that the first marriage broke?!
It may be that EC churches are to follow Rome when it comes to marriages and divorces but the EC priests I know follow the Orthodox tradition and reasoning.
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Yes, the rite for the 2nd marriage includes penitential elements. Which seems odd since if the 2nd marriage is OK in the eyes of God then why the penitential stuff? My understanding is a single lifelong marriage is the ideal, and if one is married again after the first falls apart, it is an accommodation to our fallen nature. It is in my understanding an act of economia, and therefore that may be the reason for the difference in the service. I can't say I've investigated this one much, and hopefully(!) it won't be something that requires investigation on my part. I have no idea what circumstances or in what cultural context things such as leprosy became reasons for dissolving a marriage. Perhaps at one point there was a danger to a family�s livelihood, the health of children or something along those lines. I doubt if that one comes up much, and equally I doubt that it would be presented as a sort of checklist like if you mark leprosy, that's a sufficient explanation in and of itself. I think anybody who truly loves another person would stick with them through a serious illness. Personally, I am satisfied that the way the church handles this issue is reasonable and pastorally sensitive; balancing both the ideals of the church and the realities of human existence. I can say I have been truly shocked and saddened to hear (online and in the real world) about some of the ways this issue is handled outside of Orthodoxy.
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I am an RC, so my understanding of Eastern sacramental theology is limited.
But what I understand is that, in the Byzantine tradition, only the first marriage can be sacramental. Second and rare third marriages are penitential.
Of course, if there is a decree of nullity, then the "first marriage" was no marriage at all, so it wouldn't "count". However, the bond of the first marriage may be terminated, either by death of one of the spouses or Church-sanctioned divorce.
If the rules for this Church-sanctioned divorce are clear and firm, I think this position is very healthy and I wouldn't mind if the Catholic Church adopted it.
At least in the US, the Catholic Church has a de-facto divorce, as decrees of nullity are granted on virtually any grounds.
This position would not change the practice a whole lot and would call apples, apples and oranges, oranges.
Shalom, Memo
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