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Our priest says the same thing - he pretty much dares the old biddies (who glare at crying kids) to say something. I'm an assistant cantor, so I can't help as much as I like, but the upside for that is my 2 year old who stays in my arms and sings with me. He may grow up to be another cantor, who knows??

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Rich that is the way they learn. It is not unusual in our parish to see grandad's holding little ones while they sing, even the dads.

Just them if they don't like the distractions to closer to the front. Then they will only see Jesus. Why are they sitting in the back anyway?

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In my parish we have reserved space for children in the front pews (in fact the front pews are smaller than the rest, which suits children well) so that the children can better watch what's going on. With their parents just behind them, they tend to behave quite well. From the front pews it is also easy, if necessary, to leave the church for a minute through the side door. This works very well indeed.

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Originally Posted by Latin Catholic
In my parish we have reserved space for children in the front pews (in fact the front pews are smaller than the rest, which suits children well) so that the children can better watch what's going on. With their parents just behind them, they tend to behave quite well. From the front pews it is also easy, if necessary, to leave the church for a minute through the side door. This works very well indeed.

That makes alot of sense!

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like the woman who nicely told me after a particularly trying Liturgy one day that when her 6 children were young, they stood perfectly all in a line and if they squirmed, she flicked them on the head and they straightened right up.


Oh yes...the 'perfect parents of the perfect children'.

I have met quite a few of those in my first parish and in my life, and I do not like them!! Actually, I wish that I could have told them: "if you have been so blessed by such perfect children, then count your blessings and thank God in humility and thanksgiving, and don't judge others whose children are obviously not perfect." wink

Lord have mercy on me, but isn't their arrogance and judgementalism a sin?!? smirk

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Sorry to chime in a little late in the discussion, but we have heard these stories as well. Yet it is sad to hear from such "perfect parents" that their "perfect children" have abandoned the Faith. I wonder if there is a causal relationship here...

I must pay respect to my bride of 24 years, who has had to "endure" the task of attending to our brood of 7 during the DL by herself during the past 10 years. There is an age difference of 17 years between the eldest to the youngest. She has breastfed quite discreetly.

To the mother who began this thread, I offer this advice- trust your own motherly instincts, you know your child's limits (as well as your own). I'm not an advocate of cry rooms because a child needs to learn how to worship from the young age. As a result of the Mysteries of Initiation our babies are fully initated members of the Church. IMHO the cry room presents an obstacle to that membership.

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Originally Posted by Deacon John Montalvo
To the mother who began this thread, I offer this advice- trust your own motherly instincts, you know your child's limits (as well as your own). I'm not an advocate of cry rooms because a child needs to learn how to worship from the young age. As a result of the Mysteries of Initiation our babies are fully initated members of the Church. IMHO the cry room presents an obstacle to that membership.
Well said. On Sundays before he beigns his homily Faher Joseph has a standard announcement. To paraphrase he says that if your babies are crying take them to the crying room to calm them down, but once they are calmed down bring them back because they belong with the Church.

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The term he uses is "obstreperous"--it makes my kids giggle. He also warns adults to turn off their cell phones--and I find cell phone ring tones in church much more annoying than babies crying or toddlers fidgeting.

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Originally Posted by StuartK
... I find cell phone ring tones in church much more annoying than babies crying or toddlers fidgeting.
Unless your mobile phone's ring tone is a baby crying (and I have heard such a ring tone). shocked biggrin

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Originally Posted by StuartK
... I find cell phone ring tones in church much more annoying than babies crying or toddlers fidgeting.
Unless your mobile phone's ring tone is a baby crying (and I have heard such a ring tone). shocked biggrin

That has to be the most ridiculous of all phone rings!!! On the other hand, perhaps, because it is human nature to hush a crying baby, this particular phone ring forces its owner to answer quickly to hush it in the same way!!! (a philosophical analysis, for what it is worth)HEHEHE! wink

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While I agree that the crying baby ring tone is ridiculous, I'll also admit to having used it for a while. When my 3 year old was a baby and I was just venturing out without him occasionally, trying to time it between feedings, I set the crying baby as personalized ring tone for calls from my husbands phone and our home phone. My husband almost never calls me on my cell phone, so I knew if I heard the crying baby, it meant that I needed to get home quickly to feed the crying baby.

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