To me, "Ordinary vs. Extraordinary" says: We really want to do things this way, but in order not to lose your contributions to the collection basket, you can have it however you want.
I believe we're giving out the wrong message.
This is important to understand: the message sent was mixed in the reception by the various receivers:
1) SSPX: 'grouse long enough and Rome will give in'
2) FSSP, ICRSS: 'Thank you for your patience. Expect more work soon.'
3) liturgically Liberal Catholics: "See, there can be many forms. Keep experimenting, we'll move the conservatives out of your way"
4) liturgically conservative Catholics: "You can have your old mass, just convince your bishop there is a need, but now you can individually complain to the CDW if he doesn't listen"
5) catholics of the non-roman Western Rites: no change for you! (One made a comment on another board that amounted to understanding it as "Stay in your ghetto or act Roman")
6) Many Roman Bishops: "Here's what you have to do, now do it."
6a) A sadly enough not too few Roman Bishops: "Blah, Blah, Blah."
Many of those 6a bishops don't consider anything but canon law to bind them; the papal instructions are ignored one after another. (What they fail to realize is that canon law actually includes any post-promulgation of the code moto proprio by default, and unless it directly contradicts, any pre-promulgation of the code moto proprio.)
Quoting the law doesn't end schisms; making the faithful aware of the law has brought a few who wish to be obedient back from schism.
If the Trent mass had been merely vernacularized, there would still be complaints. Many traditionalists in the Archdiocese of Anchorage, which is very orthodox and orthopraxic for a Roman diocese based upon what I've seen online, don't care whether it's the TLM or the Pauline Latin Mass, they want an end to the vernacuar
in all liturgies (even St John's liturgy). There is a smaller set here that want the Trent mass, but many of them will accept (gleefully) it in english, for they want the priest facing east, one reading, and 30-minutes and done.
The various agendas leading to the TLM desire still don't address the issues the council actually had ordered addressed: revision of the calendar, the readings, a return to concelebration outside of hierarchical masses, and the mandating of a homily, not just a sermon.
And the communion in the hand issue would likely have arose anyway.
I do support the use of the TLM where there is a desire for it. I think it should be a separate ordinariate system, just like has been authorized for the Anglicans, if not a church sui iuris (As Fr. Bishop Lefebvre desired). Let the trads be trads, and free of meddlesome bishops who oppose their liturgy. They are, in many ways, where EC's were in 1908... allowed their liturgy but not allowed to be true to their heritage due to a combination of social and episcopal pressures.