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Thanks but they were not intended as proof texts except that they are sacred scripture for both Catholic and Orthodox. I'm not a proof-text-approach guy. Scripture should not be used to prove but it must affirm and should confirm praxis. The problem is, the Church does dissolve marriages and has done so since ancient times. Whether one calls it "divorce" or plays semantic/ legal games about "annulments" and "validity" is immaterial. I'm saying it's not semantics. The difference is material theologically. It's all fine and good to quote Christ's words against the Pharisees, but what could be more pharisaical then inventing a mountain of rules and jargon just to create a loophole to avoid calling a spade a spade? Again, I'm asking that it not be looked at in the eyes of the world but within the scope of the church, through the words of Christ to Peter (Matthew 16:19) and the Apostles (Matthew 18:18 within the context), to bind and loose. For some considerations from a non-confessional viewpoint see annulments-differ-from-divorces [ family.findlaw.com]. The two questions I especially ask (again) are: What is the Orthodox praxis of annulment (more properly a decree of nullity)? Ephesians 5:32 prompts me to ask: Can Christ and the church divorce?
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Is the marriage tribunal now infallible too? I know the cousin too well . . . Since the comparison here cannot pertain to papal infallibility I'm concluding that by the "too" you're referring to yourself. And now the Catholic church has to scramble to affirm that the civil marriage is legitimate to avoid calling the children of that marriage "illegitimate." Hardly a worthy (i.e. accurate and fair) appraisal of the Catholic Church. Again, for some considerations from a non-confessional viewpoint see annulments-differ-from-divorces [ family.findlaw.com] . How do your copious scriptural quotes contribute to the discussion on the PRAXIS of annulment/divorce. Goodness, they are a commonly accepted foundation which are to be found in accord with correct praxis. You are willing to acknowledge annulment but not divorce. Is this not a matter of semantics whereby thousands of Catholic have received annulments - much to Rome's chagrin?
So what really does constitute grounds for annulment? Psychological reasons based on a psychologist's report that says the marriage has broken down?
Also, as for adultery - there is also consideration given to the "adultery" that occurs when one or both partners give more attention to their careers or other "things" rather than to their marriage which leads to marriage breakdown.
At least the Orthodox Church is realistic here. Not semantics. See link in this post on annulment/divorce summary. Sometimes "realistic" is a replacement for expediency or I goofed. Also, the Eastern Churches not only allow, but actively support "hieratic divorce" where one or both partners seek to dissolve the marriage bond so that they might enter the monastic state - by way of parentheses. I'm not seeing how this pertains or if it is even worded accurately. Some specific verifiable reference would be helpful. If you are going to simply pronounce "from above" and say only the marriage tribunal knows for sure - that is not a discussion.
Alex Scripture certainly is "from above" and my quoting it without commentary is no pronouncement. There are QUESTIONS that I have repeated and repeat again: The two questions I especially ask (again) are: What is the Orthodox praxis of annulment (more properly a decree of nullity)? Ephesians 5:32 prompts me to ask: Can Christ and the church divorce?
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Dear Father Deacon,
OK, may we begin with your explanation of the differenc between "annulment" and "divorce?"
I think that would be a great starting point.
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Dear Father Deacon,
OK, may we begin with your explanation of the differenc between "annulment" and "divorce?"
I think that would be a great starting point.
Alex Start with the link I gave above in two posts that mainly gives a civil law explanation: " Again, for some considerations from a non-confessional viewpoint see how-marriage-annulments-differ-from-divorces [ family.findlaw.com]." It doesn't state the Catholic position accurately so I've edited the opening paragraph: ----------------------------- Divorces and annulments both seem to have the same effect-- there is no marriage. However, they differ in how they treat the marriage. When people get a divorce, they are still recognized as having been married previously. An annulment, on the other hand, finds that the marriage never existed. ----------------------------- The link gives some of the practical applications, the applied theology. But it is the foundational theology, Orthodox and Catholic, that should be compared and should be the determining factor. Answering the two questions that I posed and repeat here would contribute to that comparison. What is the Orthodox praxis of annulment (more properly a decree of nullity)? Ephesians 5:32 prompts me to ask: Can Christ and the church divorce?
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Perhaps Brother Recluse can divest himself from the situation in Syria and come over here to provide an Orthodox response to this?
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Also, it is quite legitimate to ask how the Church determines that a marriage never existed, especially marriages that have gone on for years and have produced children.
I understand the difference between divorce and annulment.
Marriage reflects the relationship between Christ and His Church. But is it an absolute reflection?
How does the Church deal with marriages that breakdown irretrievably?
From a social psychological point of view only, it would appear that the Church is issuing annulments "after the fact" of a marital breakdown and in many cases today, years after the sacrament was administered.
How can one ascertain that reasons given by persons in a marriage that has broken down regarding their "intentions" when they got married years before are legitimate? A marriage tribunal has only their word for it.
In reality, it is impossible to make that determination as it is, truly, after the fact of a marital breakdown.
In Canadian hockey, that is called "fast-sticking."
Forgive me, but your approaching this from quite the idealistic perspective.
The Orthodox praxis, as per Archbishop Kallistos Ware, is that a valid marriage can breakdown and that after repeated attempts to try and resolve the problems, the Church, after hearing a particular case, can annul the marriage. At no time is there any effort to try and absolutely "prove" the marriage didn't exist to begin with as, also according to the Scriptures, adultery severely impacts the marriage bond.
A second and also a third sacramental marriage is then allowed, but it has a distinct penitential tone.
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Also, it is quite legitimate to ask how the Church determines that a marriage never existed, especially marriages that have gone on for years and have produced children. People have children, sometimes many, even out of wedlock. Church tribunals issue a decree of nullity that a marriage had not taken place. Can and should the Church do this? That's a third question, the first two go unanswered.
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I understand the difference between divorce and annulment. Then why the prior post: Dear Father Deacon,
OK, may we begin with your explanation of the differenc between "annulment" and "divorce?"
I think that would be a great starting point.
Alex But I ask again: What is the Orthodox praxis of annulment (more properly a decree of nullity)?
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Marriage reflects the relationship between Christ and His Church. But is it an absolute reflection? I'd say it is absolute but not total, perfect. Christ is God and the Church His most-pure spouse; that's unique. In baptism, as a comparison, we become christs, we put on Christ, and even with imparting a sphragis -- it's ontological. No sin or deficiency of ours, however, undoes the seal. As I've used the terms then, Baptism is absolute but not total in that we do not become a divine person, nor perfect in that we can be far from being, appearing or acting as christs.
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Rome has expressed concern about the methodology employed by church tribunals in their granting of "annulments."
Should the church be doing this? Yes, it should. The question is to what extent does a psychological examination of a couple whose marriage has broken down establish criteria deemed legitimate by a tribunal?
And getting an annulment via a marriage tribunal in Ukraine is much more difficult than getting one in Philadelphia.
Would you, Father Deacon, ever question the actions of a marriage tribunal in granting annulments?
How is it possible for a couple married in Church and living together for years with children to get an annulment without causing scandal?
How can a marriage tribunal know with certainty that they did not intend to live as the Church teaches re: matrimony, especially if they only have their word for it now, many years later?
You seem to want to defend this process as being "infallible" so that to critique it is to somehow attack the Church.
Is that your position? Do you not think the marriage annulment process in the Catholic Church has become an "after the fact" matter?
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I would say that when Moses brought the commandments down from the mountain, there was an early Jesuit with hand to chin deep in thought in the crowd. He was thinking, "you know, if we reflect on this, we can get around those commandments." The more things change, the more they stay the same.
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Continuing my reply: How does the Church deal with marriages that breakdown irretrievably? It investigates and finds that either the marriage bond is true or there is found an impediment to the marriage having taken place. From a social psychological point of view only, it would appear that the Church is issuing annulments "after the fact" of a marital breakdown and in many cases today, years after the sacrament was administered.
How can one ascertain that reasons given by persons in a marriage that has broken down regarding their "intentions" when they got married years before are legitimate? A marriage tribunal has only their word for it. Does the tribunal not have the authority through the bishops, through Peter and the other Apostles from Christ? In reality, it is impossible to make that determination as it is, truly, after the fact of a marital breakdown. Arguing from the premise that "it is impossible to make that determination" to the Mystery is the theological tail waging the dog. Look at the Church, the present and past scandalous behavior of clergy and people; surely "it is impossible to make [the] determination" that the Church is the Spotless Spouse of Christ. In Canadian hockey, that is called "fast-sticking." I understand the term; I have no idea how it fits here. Forgive me, but your approaching this from quite the idealistic perspective. Nothing to forgive: "idealistic"=theological The Orthodox praxis, as per Archbishop Kallistos Ware, is that a valid marriage can breakdown and that after repeated attempts to try and resolve the problems, the Church, after hearing a particular case, can annul the marriage. At no time is there any effort to try and absolutely "prove" the marriage didn't exist to begin with as, also according to the Scriptures, adultery severely impacts the marriage bond. Alex, you have a penchant for making absolute statements that are imprecise to the point of inaccuracy; this can grind fruitful discussion to a halt. That "according to the Scriptures, adultery severely impacts the marriage bond" is only one interpretation of what is meant by πορνείᾳ (porneia) in Mat 19:9. Since it's brought up, here are two possible translations: New American Bible: Matthew 19:9 I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery." New Jerusalem Bible: Matthew 19:9 Now I say this to you: anyone who divorces his wife -- I am not speaking of an illicit marriage -- and marries another, is guilty of adultery.'
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Rome has expressed concern...
You seem to want to defend this process as being "infallible" so that to critique it is to somehow attack the Church.
Is that your position? No. But are YOU just critiquing or denying that the Church has the authority to find that a marriage is null? Reading these links should be of assistance: Declaration of nullity [ en.wikipedia.org] and Annulment/Decree of Nullity [ ewtn.com] . Do you not think the marriage annulment process in the Catholic Church has become an "after the fact" matter? I do not think it so; see above links for context and details. Now how about answering my questions?
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Is the marriage tribunal now infallible too? Thank you! I haven't been much involved in this thread, but I had to respond when I saw ^^ this comment. To me the big problem is not, strictly speaking, the issuing of annulments and the subsequent remarrying, but rather that it is treated as a definitive (knowing infallibly, if you will) statement that a marriage didn't exist.
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Is the marriage tribunal now infallible too? Thank you! I haven't been much involved in this thread, but I had to respond when I saw ^^ this comment. To me the big problem is not, strictly speaking, the issuing of annulments and the subsequent remarrying, but rather that it is treated as a definitive (knowing infallibly, if you will) statement that a marriage didn't exist. The "big problem" in this discussion is making statements that are incorrect, especially when information is given that is not utilized. One of the links I provided in my previous post ( Annulment/Decree of Nullity [ ewtn.com]) clearly says: None of these conditions are assumed they must be proven. A Decree of Nullity does NOT dissolve the marriage, it cannot. It is a reasoned judgement that one never existed, and as such is capable of human error. If the tribunal is fastidious to Church law and theology and the couple and their witnesses are honest, the decision can be followed in good-faith, including a new marriage. If someone is ABUSING the process through deceit, however, it would be a very grave sin for that person. A person who innocently enters a second marriage would not be guilty of sin, but the person who abused the process to fraudulently obtain a decree in order to remarry would commit adultery by remarrying. To further the discussion I invited you (and others) to answer my questions: 1.What is the Orthodox praxis of annulment (more properly a decree of nullity); that is, in addition to a divorce are there marriages that are "null" and recognized as such? 2.Ephesians 5:32 prompts me to ask: Can Christ and the church divorce? 3. Church tribunals issue a decree of nullity that a marriage had not taken place. Can and should the Church do this?
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