Welcome, Eugene!
Q: What is the main/best prayer book for daily practice?
A: The prayer books mentioned are useful. However, I would start first with the daily praying of the Psalter. There is a traditional
schedule [
bombaxo.com], but I would recommend praying Psalm 50 (51) in the morning an Psalm 140 (141) in the evening to start for the first year. If that is not possible for you, pray the Jesus Prayer
("Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner") 50 times, 3 times a day (after the Lord's Prayer). The first rule of a prayer life is the "Kiss Rule" ("Keep it simple, silly").
Q: Where can I find a Byzantine Catholic 2017 calendar that indicates required liturgical attendance, fasts etc? So far I've only been able to find Orthodox ones online.
A: Your local parish should have one. Or contact the Byzantine Seminary Press in Pittsburgh or the Melkite Diocese in Newton, MA. Online you can follow the
Byzantine Liturgical Calendar or any of the Orthodox ones.
Q: In the NY area, what are the main Byzantine congregations, missions or prayer groups? I know of St. Mary's, St. George's, Church of the Virgin Mary and St. Michael's.
A: I would start by visiting the ones closest to you. The further away you are from a parish the less likely you are to attend. You can find a list at
Parish Directory, though it may not yet be complete.
Q: Are Great Lent fasting guidelines in Byzantine Catholic Churches substantially different from one another and/or from Eastern Orthodox Churches or are they essentially the same?
A: Traditionally they are the same, with slight differences between Greeks and Slavs. People are encouraged to follow the full fast from meat, dairy, wine and oil from the start of the Fast on Forgiveness Sunday until Pascha (Resurrection Day). Most people do not keep the fullness of the strict fast. The official fasting regulations in most Byzantine Catholic Churches (for example) are set at a minimum, wherein adults are expected to abstain from dairy products on the first Monday of the Fast and on Good Friday, and from meat on the first Monday of the Fast, all Wednesdays and Fridays of the Fast, Good Friday, and on Holy Saturday. Generally those who are new to fasting are forbidden to keep the full fast the first year and are to ease into it over several years. One pastor I know recommends to those who have not kept the full fast before to keep it on weekdays only and to eat normally on weekends. To attempt too much too quickly sets one up for failure.
Q: Any recommendations on introductory books, websites or blogs?
A: The very best thing you can do to learn about the Christian East is to attend a parish regularly. While books, websites and blogs are all very useful they cannot match experiencing liturgical prayer in person. Keep in mind that the primary form of catechesis for Christians is liturgical worship and prayer.
Others will add their thoughts.
John