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Michael,

Your post is extremely important. There is certainly nothing for you to ask forgiveness for. We can learn from your experience.

First, I am happy that you have found a spiritual home in Orthodoxy. I am also embarrassed that you would be treated so poorly in any Byzantine Catholic Church. I pray that you and your family root deeply in your Orthodox parish and bear much fruit.

I have had similar experiences. When I travel over a weekend I generally seek out a Byzantine Church (Catholic or Orthodox) for Sunday Divine Liturgy. If it�s not over a weekend I will sometimes call the parish to see if I can see the church. Sometimes visitors are made to feel welcome, other times, well�.

About half of the time when I visit a new Byzantine parish (Catholic or Orthodox) no one bothers to say hello to me and I leave quietly. Once I was in a Byzantine-Ruthenian parish in California and headed to the hall for coffee after Sunday Liturgy. I politely said hello to people as I worked my way to the coffee table. People nodded but absolutely no one bothered to greet me. I left quickly and was sure that most visitors did also.

Another time I visited a Byzantine-Ukrainian parish in Pennsylvania. After Liturgy two women accosted me with �Are you Ukrainian?� When I responded �No� they asked me: �Then why are you here?� I also had an almost identical experience visiting a Ukrainian Orthodox parish so it is not just some of our Byzantine Catholic parishes that need to learn hospitality. I have heard numerous other horror stories about the lack of hospitality in our Byzantine Catholic and Orthodox parishes.

To be fair all around, I have also had wonderful experiences visiting Byzantine-Ruthenian, Byzantine-Ukrainian and Byzantine-Melkite Catholic and Orthodox parishes.

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As you were closer to this than I was I will give in on this with you. I still think some of it was caused from a bias on their parts though. I see this in the book Becoming Orthodox where they did not even consider Rome becasue of that bias. But..... I must disagree with you here... Ultimately it is our responsibility to make sure our conscience is properly formed. It is our place to learn, if the church isn't teaching us, then shame on the church but that does not negate our responsibility to search out the truth. To find out for ourselves. As I have done.
David,

I think that you have done a wonderful job in seeking the home the Lord desires for you. I pray daily for you and your journey.

I disagree with your conclusions. The fact that they were biased against Rome does not enter into the equation. They followed the leadership they were given and that formation was faulty. In such situations the shepherd is always more guilty for misleading then the sheep is for following the shepherd down the wrong path.

Yes, ultimately we are responsible to work out our salvation. But when the measuring stick we are given is faulty we are not totally responsible for our failures. Sadly, we still must live with the failure.

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Michael, definitely your post is important and underlies an important point. As does the recent post about the new Russian Catholic parish in Denver. Any parish "enclave" where language and ethnic identity become more important than the Gospel is likely living on borrowed time.

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Dear Friends,

Yes, Ukies can be very unwelcoming in their parishes along cultural lines.

I'm not defending that.

But that is a fact that exists here and elsewhere.

Knowing how our people are, I've actually dissuaded converts who are non-Ukrainians from joining the Ukie Churches.

My OCA priest friend is a case in point. He had so many bad experiences, not that I didn't warn him wink , that he left for the OCA.

Not all Ukie parishes are like that. The one I'm working with now isn't and I challenge anyone to match the kind of cultural "smorgasbord" that we have there.

But I will state the obvious in saying that many of our Ukie parishes see the "Byzantine Church" as "our Church" and if you want to use "English" then go to an "English Church" - which used to mean Roman Catholic.

In terms of the loss of numbers of faithful that the Administrator notes - that really is, in Canada, a function not only of assimilation with its push and pull factors, but also, and mainly, because the young stop going to Church.

They come for Easter and Christmas - but that's about all. And that has to do NOT with the issue of culturally-specific parishes, but with catechesis and a crisis of faith.

The Church here in Eastern Canada, however, is quite vibrant and dynamic. The parishes here are to overflowing - the cited statistical losses aren't really reflected here and it will take some more years before an adequate assessment of what is taking place now will be available.

But be that as it may, our Church here shows no signs of losing its strong cultural character. Our other cultural Churches are likewise very strong - it would be wrong to hypothesize that losses of membership seen in terms of youth dropping off Sunday attendance et al are somehow related to their staying away because they don't understand the language or that the cultural aspect is a turn-off. That simply isn't the case.

But back to the main point here, I don't disagree with the Administrator on the cultural aspect - we agree fundamentally!

What we don't agree on is how that cultural factor should be expressed, by way of separate Churches or by way of a single united Church wherein there are many cultural expressions.

From a strictly pastoral whatever point of view, no Ukie here is going to agree to give up their Church to unite with others, no matter the assurances that their culture will be preserved etc.

Call it a function of history, cultural consciousness or what have you, that is not going to happen.

We're generations away from that and even then, given that the "myth" (and I mean that in a positive sense) of Ukrainian identity is founded on an awareness of being "taken over" and "oppressed" - this whole idea of a unified Byzantine jurisdiction simply won't fly with them.

I'm not here to argue mental arguments - I really can't change that, I'm just reporting it to you wink .

The Canadian multicultural context is such that really does nourish the continued existence of separate cultural Churches and their name here is "legion."

I would also make the point that the Kyivan Church of Ukraine, itself once quite "multicultural" will eventually become that again.

The "uncanonical" UOC-KP today not only has Ukrainian parishes at home and abroad but Russian parishes (the "True Russian Orthodox" and one other joined with it), three Greek Archbishops, parishes in Kazakhstan, English parishes in the U.S. (following the New Calendar would you believe . . . wink ). It is moving toward the vision of Kyiv as a Light of the East and throughout the East.

That is how I see a North American version of Kyivan Christianity developing over time - culture is not simply secular culture, but there is also the spiritual culture of the ancient sees embodied in Particular Churches that persist.

And those Particular Churches aren't limited by geography. The influence of Kyivan Christianity was felt across Siberia and into North America.

I see no reason why the healthy tension between self-governing Metropolias of the Diaspora and their Mother Church connected with the ancient Sees cannot continue - and the Administrator doesn't disagree here either.

Today we call ourselves "Ukrainian Catholics and Orthodox."

That is a recent phenomenon, informed by the national-consciousness movements of the 19th century.

The problem with those names is that North Americans hearing them think we are ethnocultural enclaves and here to promote that.

That is certainly part of our Church's life today - a normal part given the role the Church has always plaed in the lives of the nations it has served, especially in times of colonial oppression etc.

But ultimately we need to reach back and regain our own self-awareness as heirs to the Kyivan Church itself, a Church whose own strong spiritual culture is rooted in all that "RUS'" stood for and still stands for.

I've had time to reflect on these issues brought forward by the Administrator and I see now that my earlier resistance to his idea is based not on the issue of culture, but on the issue of the Church of Kyiv and Kyivan Christianity.

I want to continue to be faithful to Kyivan Christianity even in North America.

For me, Kyivan Christianity IS what the Administrator is proposing - it is just that we need to recover its ideals.

Kyivan Christianity embraced many cultures and peoples and has traditionally been a Teacher in the East, serving and nurturing the people of God of the East.

Just as Kyivan Christianity embraced the peoples of Siberia and elsewhere, so too Kyivan Christianity can and should move into "stage two" of its ecclesial existence of North America and embrace the cultural realities of both mainstream and ethnic dynamics here.

Perhaps what is needed to achieve this is a Patriarchate of Kyiv composed of different Metropolias worldwide that reflect these realities and dynamics.

Over time, not only our cultures in North America, but Kyiv itself will become a more "Catholic" or universal centre, as it was in the past and regain that lost vision.

Kyivan Christianity is also something that saints like St Raphael Hawaweeny was inspired by - he was trained in Kyiv and even called himself a partisan of the culture of "Rus" by education.

We are not ultimately called to preach Ukrainian Catholicism outside Ukraine.

We have every right to maintain our UGCC.

At the same time, there truly is the other, supra-national aspect of the tradition of Kyivan Christianity, which is both Orthodox and Catholic in its vision of outreach to all peoples, that all of us who are children of that heritage need to work on to recover in all its theological, missionary and evangelical dynamism.

The more we study St Peter Mohyla (himself a Moldo-Wallachian, not a Ukrainian) and others in our history, the more we will come to a greater appreciation of that vision.

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I might be in a minority of one, when I say this, but several years ago when I attended a number of Protestant churches, I was on several occasions treated with such indifference, that I wondered why some of the churches even bothered to have evangelism committees. However, when I began attending Catholic Churches, with the occasional Eastern Rite thrown in, I began to look at things alot differently. It no longer bothered me if no one spoke to me, because I felt that being in God's house, I was already welcome. And then of course, unless you visit the churches hall, auditorium etc, you aren't too likely to be doing much in the way of socializing.

My point is that I frequently hear Protestants speak of joining a particular church on the basis of how friendly the people are, often at the expense of what is being preached from the pulpit. Our main concern should be the worship of God. Everything else is secondary.

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Down here in the only Ruthenian BC parish in Georgia, our parish is a mish-mash of various Catholics, probably 30% to 40% Roman folks. I grew up RC but started attending this parish 21 years ago because it was ironically the nearest Catholic church to my house; I mean it is ironic to move within one mile of the only BC parish in the state!

For several years I did not join in much with the social activities, I'm kinda quiet shocked . Also, the parish seemed to be a bit ethnic. But in no way were the people unfriendly, it is just not like me to join in alot. So the priest asked me why I didn't join in and I said it seemed like "their church". They were Byzantine, I was Roman. Well, he told me it was not "their church". It was "Christ's church!" So, I started to join in more and am now BC and have taught Sunday school for 8 years, attend all the social functions.

Sometimes it is just the way we look at things. The priest was absolutely correct to tell me it is "Christ's church".
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Celticson,
I can most assuredly sympathize with you. And I was going to say a few words to Mateuz. It is well know that the Ukies arent the most welcoming.
But dont you think our membership in the Church should be based more on fedelity to the Truth rather than on how we are treated?
I i left for every cross word or unwelcome feeling then where would i be today. Probably not a Christian at all. As you will find the same things happen in Orthodoxy.
Please reconsider you move and the reasons for its motivation.
Stephanos I
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PS Good point Lawrence, my sentiments exactly.

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My Dear brother in Christ Stephanos,

Thank you for replying to my post. Your words are wise, and believe me, I have considered my decision carefully. It actually took me 17 years to make my final decision to become Orthodox. It was'nt a decision I made lightly or quickly. I have no regrets about my Catholic past, but make no apologies for who I am now, an Orthodox Christian. Being a lifelong Roman Catholic, I thought rather than leaving the Catholic church, I could be Orthodox and Catholic. I know it is possible, I dont doubt the Byzantine Catholic church at all. For me, however, it didnt work. My attempt at becoming Ukrainian Catholic culminated in the Ukrainian Eparchy turning down my petition for change of churches. It was the ultimate rejection. At this point, I knew the Lord was telling me, finally, where I belonged. I had Orthodox thought and feelings that I had sat on for almost 20 years. Speaking just for me, I feel I am where I belong.

Pray for me as I pray for you all,

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My attempt at becoming Ukrainian Catholic culminated in the Ukrainian Eparchy turning down my petition for change of churches.
Slava Iesusu Christu!

If you don't mind sharing, what reason did the Eparchy have for turning you down?

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Glory Forever!

Brother Mikey,

The letter I received from the Eparchy said little. I dont have it any more, but if memory serves, it said something like they had decided I should delay my change of churches for an indefinate period of time and that I should look for the Savior's Will in my life. It said they would continue to pray for me. The letter I sent in the beginning was composed with the help of my Pastor at the time. The reply was mailed to me with a cc to the pastor. He never commented on it or advised me what I should do in the meantime.


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So Michael that sheds an entirely different light on this matter. I was not rejection but they counseled you to have prudent and wise judgement in decerning God's will of the change of sui juris churches. So what was wrong with that anyone in the spiritual life should have given you that advice and further more you should have followed it.

Again we follow Truth not feelings wether they be of acceptance or rejection.
Jesus said "I am" the way, the truth and the life.
Again I would advise you to pray and seek the will of God.
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Dear Michael,

I can well appreciate your sense of rejection.

I once wanted to transfer to a Ukrainian Catholic high school from the RC one I was attending.

I was told that I was fine where I was - "it's all the same faith etc" why did I want to cause trouble?

I didn't think getting another student was "causing trouble."

I did tell them that I wanted to change schools to get a better grounding in Eastern spirituality.

That argument was rejected "we're all the same" I was told.

It sounds to me as if they responded to you from within the same perspective.

But look at it this way.

If they didn't respond in that negative way and helped nudge you toward Orthodoxy, you wouldn't be Orthodox today in all likelihood!

So rather than feel down about it, you should consider it a blessing in disguise!

A number of former Eastern Catholics I know have received similar blessings from their bishops and eparchial bureaucrats . . . wink

God bless you!

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My dear friend Alex,


You have always had a God given way with words. What you have said is exactly right, and how I feel. I am happy now, and the deeper I delve, the more I learn. There seems to be no end to growing, praise God. I guess if I was a seed, it was one that took almost 20 years to bloom, like that bug that only comes out every so many years. Thanks again to you and the esteemed administrator, for your words of kindness.


Brother Stephanos, Thank you, too, for your words. I think I have fulfilled the Ukrainian Eparchy's advice, perhaps not the way they expected, but I have found God's Will in my life. As I mentioned on this thread before, I didnt feel right in rge Byzantine church anyway.


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Dear Michael,

You are more than welcome (and thank you for mentioning me ahead of the Administrator smile smile ).

You should go out on the town tonight and shout for joy that you are Orthodox!

Down one for me and Anhelyna of Glasgow! smile

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Dear Alex,


Slainte!

Michael

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